A curated Oahu list (2024 -2025 edition)

We've lived in several parts of Oahu over varying time spans and were lucky enough to return in 2023 and 2025. And, we always appreciate having good friends to keep us up-to-date on island favorites.

FOOD

1. Waffle and Berry açaí bowl on a porch in Waikiki: unlimited serve-yourself toppings
2. MANDATORY: Leonard’s malasadas, both cinnamon and sugar options
3. Masa and Joyce: recommended for authentic Hawaiian food (RIP Onos)
4. Helena’s: Will’s favorite Hawaiian food but it's hard to get in
5. Matsumoto’s Shave Ice in Haleiwa: get with adzuki beans at least once
6. Orchids Restaurant in Waikiki: for a swanky splurge dinner
7. L&L BBQ: classic almost-Hawaiian fast-food like chicken katsu musubi and kailua pork with cabbage 
8. Try haupia, purple sweet potatoes and poi at some point
9. Ululani’s shave ice: pickled mango syrup and free Li Hing Mui powder (dried, salted plums: sour and tangy)
10. The Pig and The Lady: great cocktails and pho; the bathroom is a shrine to the movie Big Trouble in Little China
11. There’s a little Chinese place near N Beretania and Nuuanu that’s really good
12. Famous pie spot in Aiea: http://annamillersrestaurant.com
13. If you can get in, the NOAA facility cafeteria on Ford Island
14. Hank's Haute Dogs
15. Nico’s at Pier 3

Also recommended to us:

Laverne’s food truck for Hawaiian food

HIKES AND ADVENTURES

1. Makapuu Point hike—easy hike with whale watching
2. Kulio’o Ridge hike: Jess’ mom’s top rec, 5 miles with amazing views of both sides of the island and some shade (but tough/deceptively slippery), neighborhood street parking
3. Pillbox hikes: go for sunrise if at all possible
4. Hike the bird sanctuary on the northwest corner of the island. It's great and can be accessed from the North Shore and the leeward side (Will prefers the leeward side).
5. Kayak out to the Mokes (Mokulua islands)
6. Lanikai Beach: the best sand, Jess’ mom’s favorite
7. Take a towel up to the Nu'uana Pali lookout for the views and enjoyment

Also recommended to us: Lulumaki Falls hike and Manoa Falls hike

Five years worth of DC life: 2017-2022, the twenty-something-year-old's big leap

Ah, what a five years I had in this crazy city/town...thanks for becoming "home" and for not many at all dull moments (no one needs more of those).

In no particular order:
-Attended Ruth Bader Ginsburg's memorial
-Walked on the frozen Reflecting Pool and scootered through the dry version
-Visited many embassies, including staying at the Peruvian Embassy and the EU in the US until closing and accidentally sitting next to the Malaysian ambassador
-Spent much time on the metro and Capital Bikeshare
-Participated in five years of Capital Life Church and DC Roadrunners and four years on the United Women in Business board
-Did six (overlapping) jobs/gigs and survived a global pandemic
-Savored the window seats at Un Je Ne Sais Quoi, made many Doi Moi visits, splurged at Compass Rose (RIP), developed an Agora bread obsession, reveled in the glory of Habesha’s vegetarian platter, frequented happy hour at Bua, discovered pho (with fried tofu), prioritized plantains to go from neighborhood holes-in-the-wall, and ate glorious Donna's BBQ pulled pork nachos and baked beans to-go on the rooftop for date nights during early COVID
-Walked to Lafayette Park on election night, toured the White House on the first day of the first Trump Impeachment, lived through January 6th, and drove down 16th Street the moment the church bells started ringing and people flooded into the streets after the Biden election
-Never missed a DC Restaurant Week! (even ate outside in the falling snow in January 2021)
-Attended the epic Australian Embassy closing party
-Accidentally invited myself to the Capitol Tree Lighting Ceremony
-Met the most interesting people just about anytime I talked to a stranger
-Finally did the Cherry Blossom Ten Miler in spring 2022, experienced the wettest marathon of all time (Marine Corps 2019), had a Rock 'n Roll Half Marathon streak, and placed top 100 in the Army Ten Miler
-Played Monopoly with a Supreme Court employee's kid while babysitting
-Enjoyed the International Day of Yoga three times on the National Mall (on the Capitol lawn and the Lincoln Memorial lawn) with the Indian Embassy
-Experienced many little joys at the Wharf: attended the opening ceremony, enjoyed the swings, learned to curl, belted 90s tribute songs, enjoyed cherry blossom District Donuts, played in the fountains in 120 degree heat index, and did a birthday outdoor concert (plus literary-themed drinks afterwards at Kramerbooks & Afterwords across town)
-Jogged down Massachusetts Avenue and Barracks Row and Kalorama, ran to see the cherry blossoms on my lunch break, and did costumed group Halloween and Christmas tree jogs
-Walked five feet from the car taking the Olympians to the White House on my commute and walked to the Nationals victory parade and Bush funeral processions just outside my office
-Toured NPR, the Supreme Court, the Capitol balcony/voting seats (thanks, St Jude!) and The White House Garden
-My favorite outdoor yoga class was regularly interrupted by the Vice Presidential motorcade 
-Walked past the Wonder Woman: 1984 filming
-Experienced many life moments at the Jefferson Memorial: not getting the job, participating in my first and only "elite" race, processing the breakup, and even winning the lottery the first week of the global pandemic (for a St Patrick's Day work celebration) 
-Accidentally sat next to an award-winning author at a birthday dinner
-Went to the regional coffee brewing championship, The Night of Ideas, The Long Conversation, and the DC Jazz Festival, as just a few of my favorite events
-Drove a free-upgraded red Jeep across the Mall
-Was in a Getty Images photo while sledding on Capitol Hill before work (in not-quite-enough snow)
-Experienced many great Kennedy Center moments, about two-thirds of them totally free: rooftop visits and supper happy hour concerts, yoga on the red carpet, cultural dance classes, engagement photos, last-minute NYC Ballet tickets, a DIY wedding cake tasting, the glorious Aretha Franklin New Year's Tribute concert, Anastasia, Opera in the Outfield, Mean Girls, The Disney Princess Concert and more)
-Met the local news fun-stuff-to-do expert Tommy McFly
-Participated in church small groups with people from the Secret Service, IRS, DOJ and FBI
-Got my Library of Congress card, accidentally blasted rap music while inside when my headphones malfunctioned and another time watched the Blair Witch Project with the movie directors on Halloween
-Did lots of dancing and people-watching at Nick's in Alexandria (RIP)
-Visited nearly endless farmers markets
-Made the news for a Lincoln Memorial workout with an Olympian (shout out to the November Project)
-Saw Kal Penn, Yo Yo Ma, Alessia Cara, DNCE, Jose Andres, Katie Ledecky, and Ellen Johnson Sirleaf all for free (I'm not even going to include all the glorious Capitol Fourth performers 2018-2019/2022 because I'd never finish)
-Ran into someone from college on Valentine's Day at the exact same metro door at rush hour and another person from college on a corner the exact moment I sat on a bench in a part of Capitol Hill that I was never usually in
-Splurged on a meal at Rooster and Owl, a Michelin star restaurant right down the street from my apartment
-Danced the YMCA with a four-star admiral
-Attended a particularly great concert in Dupont Underground
-Got to visit the African American History Museum three times (once through the employee entrance)
-Enjoyed the early almost-post-COVID Off The Record (relocated to the top floor) moments
-Watched National Treasure and did a themed scavenger hunt at the National Archives
-Attended a rooftop Mickey Guyton concert for work
-Celebrated the Fourth of July Georgetown kayak tradition four times
-Had a first date at the H Street Festival, officially started dating at the Hamilton, got interviewed by future best man Dan at The Old Ebbitt Grill, got engaged at the Alexandria waterfront, shared special times at the National Gallery fountains, splurged on the Willard Hotel (with Ethiopian takeout), and celebrated Georgetown graduation (first only in the mail and much later, live on campus)
-Finally visited Roosevelt Island
-Stayed at the JW Marriott on my friend's CDC work trip before work next door the next day
-Made many visits to the National Botanic Garden and Smithsonian, including the Smithsonian Summer Solstice event–my "night at the museum"
-Joined my first-ever book clubs and participated in my first Scrabble Meet Up
-Lent a PBS News Hour reporter my headphones during a climate march

Monterey County bucket list, short edition: 26 things you must do in Monterey, Pacific Grove and Carmel, California

Welcome active people, culture lovers and foodies! I present to you a cultivated assortment of the things that I recommend the most after three years living in this magical area with awesome weather and lovely flowers. I've included many simple pleasures, some great deals and a few worthy splurges. Of course, there are plenty more excellent culinary options and outings to be enjoyed across Monterey County, but here are my suggestions to get you started. 

Must-do activities:

1. Have a latte in the garden behind Alta Bakery and Cafe. We often park on Pacific Street near the library and walk over.
2. Visit the Monterey Aquarium to say hello to the indoor otters or rent a kayak through Adventures by the Sea to say hello to the outdoor ones off of Monterey's beaches.
3. Hike Inspiration Point in Carmel. Warning: it is steep but worth it. There is a port-a-potty at the bottom of the big hill. 
4. Buy bread from Ad Astra Bread Co. Beyond the storefront, it's also sold at various farmers markets.
5. Attend First Friday in Pacific Grove and be sure to visit Vintage Finds and the Pacific Grove Art Center (keep an eye out for their Tiny Treasures fundraiser and raffle--typically in July and August!)
6. See a movie (or a few) at the Lighthouse Cinema.
7. Enjoy all of the chips and salsa at Peppers Mexicali Cafe after wandering the Pacific Grove Farmers Market Mondays from 3 - 6 pm in the winter, 3 - 7 pm other seasons.
8. Wave hello to the cows in the field outside the entrance to Point Lobos State Natural Reserve. You can also park off of the road there and walk in to skip the park entrance fee. 
9. Eat weekday breakfast outside at Mission Ranch Hotel and Restaurant to savor an amazing view.
10. Eat bees knees ice cream from Revival Ice Cream.

Best annual events:

1. See "calla lily valley" in Garrapata State Park in late January through March.
2. Attend Carmel-by-the-Sea Culinary Week.
3. Check out the events schedule at Earthbound Farm Stand. Try for the flower picking.
4. Consider a relay team for the Big Sur Marathon Relay in April (Warning: you will have to wake up really early) and/or work the expo volunteering with Monterey Public Library or volunteer at the race itself with another worthy charity.
5. Trick or treat (or just people-watch) around "Candy Cane Lane" aka Morse Drive in Pacific Grove. Park across the street near Pacific Grove High School or similar.
6. Christmas: buy a ticket for Christmas at the Inns and explore the beautiful, historic bed and breakfasts of Pacific Grove and more.
7. Christmas: buy a ticket for Christmas in the Adobes to tour the architectural gems of Monterey.

Bonus activities:

1. Bike part of 17 Mile Drive. Bikers enter the gate for free. Be sure to watch for cars and tourists. 
2. Watch the sunset at Carmel beach then enjoy a meal at Jeju Kitchen or Pangaea Grill (perhaps at the mayor's table in the back).
3. Try out the running/walking group with Fleet Feet Monterey (typically Monday nights at 6 pm, but check the schedule).
4. Splurge on a Refuge spa pass for a silent day of relaxation in Carmel Valley.
5. Visit the Cannery Row Antique Mall.
6. Order at the bar (inside the lobby on the left; the more-expensive restaurant is to the right) at L'Auberge.
7. Try the international coffee options at Seaside's Creperie Cafe.
8. See a show at Carmel's Outdoor Forest Theatre.
9. Join the wine club at Taste of Monterey and have a free weekly happy hour for two staring at the ocean. Note: parking is kind of challenging and they close early, 6 pm Sunday through Thursday and 7 pm on Fridays and Saturdays.

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If you're looking for more right now, some of my other articles feature brunch suggestions in Monterey and Santa Cruz counties and night out/date night ideas for Monterey and Santa Cruz counties (RIP Salinas Valley Food & Wine). For more suggestions, check out two hour after-work Monterey adventures and outdoor activities around Monterey. If you're looking to give back while exploring the community, see these volunteer opportunities for families around Monterey county. And if you make the trip to SF, here are some recommended San Francisco art museums--check with each museum for the latest events.

Crudo Nudo Returns (originally for VEER Magazine)

Enchantée to the 2026 edition of Crudo Nudo. My husband, young daughter and I visited on February 21 during a slammed reopening weekend before heading off to watch Chicago at Chrysler Hall. Based on the recommendations of friends, it’s been at the top of my long Hampton Roads restaurant list since we moved here last spring and impatiently waited through fall delays to the February 19 opening.

A devastating kitchen fire the morning of February 5, 2025 with heavy black smoke requiring forced entry and three fire trucks closed Crudo Nudo after seven years, though it only briefly affected the adjacent businesses. As Crudo Nudo owner Eric Nelson shared with WKTR’s Jay Greene on February 27, 2025, “...Hopefully we'll come back fresh and new and have something exciting for everybody to experience again.” Thank goodness the charred furniture and broken glass are long gone and this has come true. “When we ‘wanted’ to open and when we ‘could’ are always going to be different. I was never disappointed in the process. Instead we used the time to focus on what we could,” said Nelson.

After a Jul 24, 2025 public hearing about the space and twelve and a half months of renovations, the restaurant is wearing a fresh coat of lavender adjacent to rosy paint with evocative yellow botanical chandeliers. The bathroom was so pretty that it made me briefly want to redo my own recently redone bathroom. The regulars next to me commented that it used to be quirkier than it seems now, but I rather enjoyed the 2026 look. 

Their website snarks, “A drink is a drink until you order one here.” I’m glad to see that they have ten “cocteles” listed in addition to 16 wine options that range from a $12 glass of 7 Pams Garnatxa ‘22 to a $121 bottle of Psi Wines Pibera del Duero. There weren’t many fruity cocktail options–my usual pick–but I look forward to trying their take on red sangria in the future. Five beers, Coyote Hole passionfruit cider, and the elevated, kombucha Unified Ferments Jasmine Green Tea that I’ve confirmed to be delicious round out the drink menu. 

The current food menu lists sections I-V, designed to be eaten roughly in order. “We do have plans to add new dishes and evolve the menu more than what we did in the past. Change is a good thing,” shares Nelson. Three changed-up crudo options ($14-15) are also offered along with four sliced-to-order Iberico meat options ($15). The avocado cheesecake and crème de catalan have returned from the prior dessert menu, in addition to new-to-the-menu churros with chocolate. Nelson adds, “A lot of the dishes we kept and tweaked them…we were able to find an artist to make us new plates, which has been exciting.” 

We ordered something from all but one numbered section: the salt cod fritters, quicos (new to us), patatas bravas with aioli, new-to-the-menu piquilla peppers stuffed with herbed goat cheese and the spinach and goat cheese agnolotti, cumin-dusted pork belly with mojo picon and a refreshed version of shrimp black rice, which our waitress remarked to be “the perfect lineup.” I’ll take it. Forgetting exactly what type of pasta agnolotti was (sincere apologies to my former National Pasta Association colleagues) and ready to eat, I didn’t realize until after I had happily polished it off that the quickly arriving, beautiful bucatini with garlic shrimp and green onion was a bonus intended for the couple next to me. The patatas bravas that I usually order at José Andres’ Jaleo were extra crispy at Crudo Nudo, but my husband loved them. The forbidden rice and agnolotti were the highlights for me, with the energetic ambience and leopard-print-wearing, tattooed waiter reminding me of favorite restaurants around DC. Making sure to try everything, I got a bit fuller than intended and happily took home leftovers, but the original order would have likely been the perfect amount of food for 2.2 people (our toddler was extra distractible but enjoyed nibbling shrimp, cod fritters, quicos, patatas bravas and pasta). 

After a few third-day-reopen hiccups where meals almost went to an adjacent table (and once did, whoops), dinner was excellent and everyone in the full restaurant seemed to be having a good time. As an avid fan of roast carrots, I was happy to hear that the couple having date night to my left remarked that the harissa yogurt carrots were as good as they always were. The quartet of foodie regulars celebrating a birthday party to my right shared their friend’s glowing endorsement of the flatiron with quince while lamenting the loss of the old sardines appetizer, charcuterie (A Taste of Spain Tapas Board), and the seats by the kitchen. Nelson’s personal favorites include patatas bravas, garlic shrimp and the lumache that he has always loved. We’ll have to try everything in menu section III another visit.

I’m excited to return. I hope the black sesame ice cream does, too.

727 West 21st St., Norfolk, VA 23517 - Crudonudo.com - 757.904.0987

California's Quirky Fairs & Festivals (originally for Monterey Bay Parent Magazine)

WHALEFEST MONTEREY
April 13-14, 2024 | Whalefest.org
World-renowned marine experts and a variety of local groups share whale facts, maps and opportunities to support our biggest neighbors. Enjoy music from 12 different artists/groups including the very appropriately named “Jonah and the Whalewatchers” and Nicholas Fettis and his “Orca”stra, visit a marine research vessel and more at this outdoor event. Admission is free.

JACKALOPE INDIE ARTS FAIR
Pasadena | April 27-28, 2024
Burbank | June 8-9 and December 7-8, 2024 | JackalopeArtFair.com
Explore items from more than 200 local artisans across a variety of disciplines while enjoying live music at this outdoor fair. Kids may particularly enjoy making customizable slime, getting glitter tattoos and unicorn braids, coloring a free postcard or getting a custom poem written about them. In Burbank, peruse goods from more than 170 local artisans including specially featured young artisans showing off their handmade items. Admission to this event is free at both locations.

SANTA CRUZ MOUNTAIN MUSHROOM FESTIVAL
Felton | May 4-5, 2024 | CaliforniaMushroomFestival.com
“Building community through fungi”: Experience this new festival focused on our local mushroom bounty. Enjoy demos, DIY booths, nature walks, live music and a kids zone.

KINETIC GRAND CHAMPIONSHIP
Humboldt County | May 25-27, 2024 | KineticGrandChampionship.com
For three days, pilots and crews guide kinetic sculptures in a 40-mile race across roads, sand, mud and water. These “all-terrain human-powered art vehicles” include fun details such as faces, fire cannons and other unusual features. This event has been held for more than 50 years: now it’s your turn to experience it.

CALIFORNIA EXTREME
Santa Clara | July 27-28, 2024 | CAExtreme.org
“The classic arcade game show”: Lean into your nostalgia and play hundreds of old-school games, all day with no coins needed. Options include pinball machines, arcade games, video games and many that you just can’t find much any more. Introduce the kids to your hard-to-find favorites!

THE WORLD DOG SURFING CHAMPIONSHIPS
Pacifica | August 3, 2024 | SurfDogChampionships.com
“Hanging ten with man’s best friend”: Human and dog surfers gather to seek the best waves at Linda Mar Beach. You’re guaranteed to catch lots of fun sights. Grab some dog surfing merchandise while you’re there. The event helps raise money for good causes. Admission is free.

THE LITTLE CAR SHOW
Pacific Grove | August 14, 2024
Featuring over 100 cars from micro to mini to arcane vehicles, you’ll enjoy browsing and cheering for these cute, fun cars as much as your kids will. Browse on Lighthouse Avenue or watch them cruise down Ocean View Boulevard to Asilomar State Beach. Free admission.

NIGHTS OF THE JACK
Calabasas | September 29-October 31, 2024 | NightsoftheJack.com
“The premiere immersive Halloween experience”: Lights everywhere, pumpkins made into huge animals such as gorillas and elephants, Jack-o-Lantern trees and more. Walk their spooky trail with some hot cider.

DEATH VALLEY ‘49ERS ENCAMPMENT
Death Valley National Park | DeathValley49ers.org
Join the Death Valley ‘49ers for gold rush-style activities, from gold panning and gem mining, doll-making, and blacksmithing demonstrations. 2024 marks the 75th anniversary of this event.

INDIO INTERNATIONAL TAMALE FESTIVAL
December 7-8, 2024 | IndioTamaleFestival.com
Celebrated since the 1990s, venture to Indio in early December to enjoy thousands of tamales, carnival rides, mariachi, and plenty of music appealing to all ages. Which flavor will be your favorite? Free admission.

Flying With A Baby: Tips to Make it Better Than You Expect

I dreaded the first flights with my baby (five in total over the course of three weeks), but thanks to following these tips, I had a surprisingly great experience! Hope they are helpful.

Crowdsourced from many wise people I've encountered:
-Make sure the baby starts sucking 40 min before landing to protect their ears—set a timer based on when landing is predicted.
-Bring extra clothes for the baby and all adults.
-Wear a baby carrier through the airport and definitely through security.
-Drink extra water whenever you can—flight attendants are happy to help—and pack plenty of snacks for yourself.
-Wear a Boppy as a neck pillow then it will be handy for nursing and for letting baby sleep on.
-Use the MAMAVA App to find nursing spaces. Or review designated nursing spaces on the airport’s map.
-Don't board early; we found it most helpful to board as late as possible after friends had recommended it. Obviously stay close so you don’t cause any trouble making the flight.
-Wear a nursing cover scarf if you like.
-You can get a free pass from the airline ticket counter for someone to accompany you to the boarding gate.
-Flight attendants can heat up bottles for you. No need to ask for a cup of hot water and fumble with it yourself.
-Dressing in layers is very helpful.
-Change diapers as close to when you board as possible: you may be able to skip or at least minimize plane changes.

Quick Revival of Monterey Tea Favorite (originally for Edible Monterey Bay)

Cha-ya Japanese Tea & Things is now Cha-Ya Boutique and Tea House under new proprietor Ariel Wolansky, who also owns The Xocolatl Garden in Carmel. 

Previous owner Mitsuko Gammon closed the shop at the end of 2023 to spend more time with family, after sharing her tea expertise with the area since 2005. Thankfully another tea enthusiast swooped in to keep it alive. 

“Being a tea fan and seeing a place that’s been around for 18 years closing, originally I reached out to help find a way for it to not close,” said Wolansky. The new team soft-reopened in early February.

Wolansky has been studying and appreciating tea for over a decade with many tea teachers from China who have dedicated their whole lives to learning about tea and sharing it. “One of my passions is tea and one is chocolate, and I wanted to do both,” he said. 

Cha-ya devotees will be thrilled to learn that the new owner has maintained all of Gammon’s prior Japanese tea connections and will continue to offer a wide variety of Japanese teas. Other tea options will include Chinese teas such as Puerh and oolong along with Japanese favorites such as matcha, Azuma organic green tea directly from the farm and Den’s Tea specialty green teas. 

Cha-ya’s new owner Ariel Wolansky with former owner Mitsuko Gammon.

Wolansky is also adding a variety of locally produced items, including matcha cookies made by neighbors and beloved Monterey pastry chefs Anne Parker Johnson and Yann Lusseau of Parker-Lusseau. 

Hand-harvested Garden of the Universe herbal teas made by Big Sur biologist, herbalist, forager, medicine maker and beekeeper Katie Rose will be on offer, along with loose-leaf tea blends from ZumZum Tea made by Salinas duo Anthony and Kimberly Chavez—self-described “die-hard tea lovers” who respect Fair Trade practices and sell their teas at local farmers markets.

Besides all the tea options, Cha-Ya Boutique and Tea House now offers 20 types of tea-flavored chocolates, such as award-winning small-batch Genmai Cha (toasted rice and green tea) Jade Chocolate from San Francisco, organic, vegan Goodio Candied Chamomile chocolate stone-ground in Finland, Fossa Chocolate with Oolong tea, Hojicha chocolate, Taiwanese chocolate and other selections from Wolansky’s own brand, Choquiero Chocolate. “They’ll have to come in to see all the options,” he teased.

The shop is adding new teas, tea flavored chocolates and Japanese specialty items.

Other additions include new seating in the shop where people can come in to enjoy tea, as well as the opportunity to have a tea ceremony (please allow 30 minutes for a tea ceremony). The space is also available for private events after-hours. 

There are also plans to host weekly social tea gatherings and monthly chocolate and tea events, similar to the “Chocolate and Tea Gatherings” held at The Xocolatl Garden, so keep an eye on social media for those. 

“Chocolate and Tea Gatherings started as free events for people to enjoy, gather around and share. Really to bring the community together,” he adds.

Wolansky will also be working with tea connoisseurs to offer exclusive specialty items including Soga Shohaku art, tansus (Traditional portable storage chests from Japan), scrolls, ceramic and clay teapots alongside silk fans and Mihoko origami cranes. Other unique offerings include tea pets, Yixing, Gaiwan and Japanese tea pots, Gongfu tea kits with various tray options and lots of tea accessories. Cha-Ya also now carries body care products including tea-based creams and Japanese-style bath bombs.

A recent Instagram post shares the vibe: “Lost in the quiet charm of Cha-Ya, where teas are stories, art whispers, and time takes its time. Embracing the slow sips and simplicity of the moment. From cozy ceremonies to a cup for the road, join us in finding joy in the little things.” Head over to experience it yourself. 

Cha-Ya Boutique and Tea House • 118 Webster Street, Monterey • Open F-Sa 11 am-6 pm and Su-Th 11am-4 pm • @ChaYaMonterey

My Favorite Survival Tips for a New Baby’s Arrival

Notes to my friends and family from my early postpartum self! My favorite survival and sanity-saving methods for those wild early days.

-Everything on the KellyMom website—my Lactation Consultant told me it was all the same advice she gives.

-Have lots of extra burp cloths, baby towels, regular towels, extra t-shirts nearby because they run out faster than you’d think at the beginning.

-Wear lightweight button-down shirts to help with feedings and your temperature changes.

-Listening to the First Forty Days audiobook (by Heng Ou) was helpful to encourage me to take it slow.

-MamasteFit has a free early postpartum course with some suggested breathing and stretching.

-Massage from the outside in as you’re nursing sometimes: a veteran women’s health nurse said it’s the most common place to have issues.

-Try free doula text support from JustBirthSpace on Facebook messenger.

-Have your partner prep multiple water glasses in the bathroom and near the couch/bed so that it's nearby anytime the urge strikes plus will hopefully remind you to drink.

-Request a referral and set up a future appointment with a pelvic floor PT—at least in my area, it takes a while to get in—and they can assist with an exam, breathing and mobility exercises, scar tissue mobilization and a diastasis recti check if you are uncomfortable or unsure about what to do on your own like I was. They may even offer virtual consultations!

-Use the side-lying feeding position to get some "pseudo-rest".

-Leave the house dirty, it’ll be okay. It's just a season and nothing is normal right now.

-Try for the 5-5-5 rule: 5 days in bed, 5 days on the bed and 5 days around the bed. My doula recommended no more than 15 minute walks in the first month and being horizontal as much as possible the first two weeks.

-Let the light in during baby’s daytime naps for a bit to help with day-night confusion.

-Keep cashews, almonds, your nut of choice or protein bars very nearby to prevent urgent hanger.

-Try infant massage for baby gas.

-Hang up anything wet to air dry—get your partner to do it if you’re too tired.

And know that it will definitely get easier!

Family Photos Around Monterey, CA

(So I decided to write this article within an hour of taking family photos and didn’t even realize until the next day. Is this “mom brain”? Probably.)

If photos bring you joy, take advantage of your kids’ cuteness and the many local photographers to preserve memories in our beautiful home. It’s a truly spectacular area among the loveliest in the country. Please be sure to use a “Leave No Trace” mindset to keep it pristine for everyone.

“I feel beyond grateful to photograph families around the Monterey Peninsula. It is truly one-of-a-kind area—there is so much beauty and variety here. Garrapata Beach, Sobrennes Trail and Fort Ord Dunes are my favorites,” said experienced photographer Alexandra Podobnik of Alexandra Megan Photography.

 

Here are some ideas of worthwhile locations, no matter what backdrop you crave:

Around Town

-Your home or yard: Feel happiest right where you are? Simplify logistics and take advantage of your own space and things. Perhaps include favorite family items. Ideally spruce up a bit first—perhaps schedule for right after spring cleaning.

-Main Street, Salinas*: Cool storefronts and signage.

-Colton Hall Lawn, Monterey: Spacious grassy lawn in the middle of historic downtown.

-Portrait studio: Capture classic personality or heirloom-style portraits and newborns in a home studio with a clean backdrop such as offered locally by Love in Focus (https://loveinfocusphotos.com/).

-The neighborhood around Alta Bakery, Monterey*: Great architecture and flowers.

-Downtown Carmel*: Enjoy the storybook vibes.

-Behind the Custom House, Monterey*: Gorgeous flowers, Adobe character.

-(For military only) Hotel Del Monte, Monterey*: Steeped in history with great steps, fountains, rooftop and a rose garden.

-Cannery Row, Monterey*: It’s classic for a reason. Go early to try to miss crowds.

 

Greenery

-Jack’s Peak Park, Monterey*: Great views high above the peninsula. Prepare for a hike.

-Point Lobos State Natural Reserve, Carmel*: Enjoy this favorite area park’s wide variety of trails but avoid peak time by going on weekdays or near closing. Definitely comfortable shoes.

-Nisene Marks, Aptos*: Amazing for redwoods.

-Garland Ranch Regional Park, Carmel Valley*: There are plenty of trails, trees, and tall grass plus the Carmel hills in the background. Be careful to avoid poison oak.

-Check with local flower and veggie farms* in Salinas, Carmel and more based on your favorites.

 

Coastline

-Lover’s Point and the rec trail, Pacific Grove*: There are so many sweet spots along the trail. Consider avoiding peak commute/exercise times.

-Asilomar Beach, Pacific Grove*: It’s a classic for a reason.

-Ribera Beach, Carmel*: Striking rocks and trails.

-Garrapata State Park, Carmel*: Go especially when the winter/early spring lilies are out but be prepared for mud. We like to wear rain boots.

-Bixby Bridge pull-off, Carmel*: Bring along some extra patience for managing the parking situation here. (Be sure to check if the road is open before you set out as the Big Sur area can be precarious.)

-Fort Ord Dunes Park, Seaside*: Majestic sand dunes and good parking near the ocean.

*Please be mindful that permits are required for these locations.

 

Some tips to make the most of family photos:

-Consider nap times and schedules to aim for the smiliest times.

-Pack water, snacks, bottles and/or common kid requests.

-Consider diapers and/or potty breaks in your plan.

-Pre-apply sunscreen, as needed, taking care not to get on clothing.

-Aim for golden hour (one hour after sunrise or before sunset) in the morning or evening if you can.

-Take some toys along to encourage smiling.

-Pack several extra outfits, especially for littler ones.

-Perhaps pick a photographer who has children so you know that they’ll understand much of what you’re working with. Our favorite photographer helped us make many fart noises to make the baby smile with amazing results.

Your (Toddler) Sleep Questions are Answered! (originally for Monterey Bay Parent Magazine)

Lexi Teska

Graduated from The Cradle Coach Academy and My Sweet Sleep Academy

Newborn Care Specialist, The Cradle Coach Academy

Member of the Association of Professional Sleep Consultants 

Please introduce yourself. How did you get into sleep consulting?

I’m Lexi Teska of Lullaby Lexi Sleep (baby and toddler sleep consultant, ages 0–5). I trained with The Cradle Coach Academy as a newborn care specialist and sleep consultant and am a certified Sweet Sleep Academy consultant and Association of Professional Sleep Consultants member. I got into this partially because I had three kids under three and had hired a pediatric sleep consultant as a sleep-deprived military spouse with a deployed husband.

What are some of the greatest misconceptions you notice? What is confusing parents and making it harder to encourage healthy sleep?

Often parents think being a sleep consultant means teaching “cry it out”—which couldn’t be further from the truth. There are so many gentle and parent-responsive ways to set your child up with healthy sleep foundations.

A lot of the confusion out there stems from the abundance of online information thrown at parents. Most of the information is general and doesn’t take into consideration your child’s unique temperament. Children are all so different. It’s important to find what works best for each one.

Is there anything special to keep in mind while traveling or hosting? How about encountering different seasons?

While traveling, try to replicate your child’s regular sleep environment and routine. For example, if at home they sleep in a crib with their sleep sack, bring a travel crib and sleep sack on your trip. If you have a toddler who sleeps with their favorite stuffed animal, be sure to bring it along.

For changing seasons/temperatures, it’s important to consider what kind of pajamas your child should have. In colder climates, consider some thicker fleece pajamas, but in warmer climates, you might opt for a lighter onesie or bamboo pajamas.

If you use a sleep sack for your child, you can also look up the thermal overall grade (TOG) rating. The higher the TOG rating, the warmer the fabric: 0.5 TOG sleep sacks may be suitable for warm climates, but you may want one with a TOG rating of 2.0 or higher for a cold climate.

What should you do if your childcare facility does not provide an optimal sleep environment or schedule for your child (for example, a daycare with multiple kids in one room or a schedule that doesn’t align with their natural rhythms)?

I always tell parents to try not to stress about things that aren’t in their control. Children are so adaptable. Make the best of the situation and focus on what you can when your child is at home. An early bedtime—even as early as 6 p.m.—can work wonders on days where naps aren’t great.

Toddlers and preschoolers often deal with teething or getting sick. What are some ways to help adjust sleep practices and encourage them to bounce back to a great sleep routine after the teeth are in, for example?

Give extra comfort when needed, but try to stay consistent in the routine. It’s okay if things look different for a day or two, but always try to get right back to the normal routine to prevent new habits from forming.

How do you help a toddler sleep on the go (such as in a car seat, carrier, or stroller) or in a noisy or well-lit environment if they typically fall asleep in a quiet, dark environment?

All toddlers are different. Some do really well napping on the go, but so many struggle with this. It can help to have them in the car seat or stroller before their scheduled nap time so they aren’t already overtired before you head out. There are also great portable sound machines.

How late is too late for a toddler or preschooler to go to sleep?

This depends on what time they wake up and their overall schedule for the day. The ideal range for bedtime in line with natural circadian rhythms is 7–8 p.m.

How do you get preschoolers to not draw out bedtime (for example, to stop asking for lots of things before sleeping)?

Toddlers are natural boundary pushers, which is a healthy and normal part of development. I love to use a “bedtime pass.” It helps children get that sense of control that they crave. Essentially, they get a special ticket each night at bedtime, and they then can choose if and when to turn in that ticket for a chance to get out of bed for a specific reason.

Once the ticket has been used, it’s important for parents to practice holding the boundary and explain, “You have already used your bedtime pass tonight. You will get a new bedtime pass tomorrow night.”

Talk to me about “sleep training.” We know some babies are too young for sleep training. Is there a too-old-for-sleep-training age and/or do the methods change after a certain age?

The schedules and routines may change based on the child’s age, but the actual sleep training method that I use is the same despite age. I always use a gentle approach where the parent stays in the room with their child until the child is asleep.

There is no age limit to learning healthy sleep hygiene. I’m certified through age 5, but other sleep consultants work with older children.

When should parents/caregivers reach out for help?

Before you become overwhelmed—lack of sleep takes a toll on the whole family. I offer free 20-minute consultations for anyone who wants to discuss options for their specific situation.

For additional information: LullabyLexiSleep.com

Monterey County Libraries for Littles (originally for Monterey Bay Parent Magazine)

Make this the year that you and your preschooler try out the abundant free events and resources curated by dedicated librarians from our local libraries!

Early exposure to words is fundamental for a child’s language skills as well as their cognitive and social–emotional development (per Pediatrics, Volume 142, Issue 4, October 2018, Early Language Exposure and Middle School Language and IQ: Implications for Primary Prevention). Libraries certainly have plenty of engaging books—and Monterey County offers many library branches—but libraries also offer a chance to play with cool toys, learn more about your community, and maybe even meet new friends. There are libraries from Big Sur to Salinas, Pacific Grove to King City, and San Lucas to Aromas, with well over 20 branches across Monterey County.

“You should really get a library card for all of them,” recommends Sarah Nolan, event programming librarian at the Monterey Public Library. Many of these libraries have dedicated children’s librarians working hard to help little ones learn and thrive.

Beyond traditional brick-and-mortar libraries, there are Little Free Libraries all across town: Try your luck at finding early reader books for your home library while you’re out for a walk. Many locations are listed at littlefreelibrary.org, but it’s always a sweet surprise to find a new one!

Bookmobiles provide library services in areas distant from branches or with other access barriers. Google “Monterey bookmobile” to ask questions or to suggest a new stop.

Monterey County Free Libraries (MCFL) and Monterey Public Library also operate bookmobiles that visit Moss Landing, Pebble Beach, Carmel Highlands, Carmel Valley Manor, the Pajaro Park, East Garrison, Las Lomas, Spreckels Memorial Park, Toro Park, and Ohlone/Royal Oaks as well as La Mesa Village, Montecito Park, Merrill Gardens, The Park Lane, Casanova Oak Knoll, New Monterey, and El Estero Center, respectively.

Here are just some of the Monterey County library offerings. Check the respective library websites for complete details.

SONG AND STORY TIMES

Salinas’s Cesar Chavez Library offers Toddler Tales on Fridays from 10:00–11:00 a.m.

The Marina branch hosts preschool storytime every Thursday from 10:15–10:45 a.m.

The Aromas branch has storytime on Thursdays at 1:00 p.m.

The Seaside branch offers Stay and Play with Story Time on Tuesdays from 11:00 a.m.–1:00 p.m.

Salinas’s El Gabilan Library hosts Learn and Play Story Time on Tuesdays from 12:00–12:45 p.m.

Carmel’s Park Branch Children’s Library has storytime on Wednesdays (besides holidays) from 10:15–11:00 a.m. It features stories, rhymes, songs, and hands-on activities designed for children ages 2 to 5 and their parents and caregivers.

The Monterey Public Library hosts weekly toddler/preschool storytimes on Tuesday afternoons in the community room. All are welcome, especially ages 2 to 5.

(Note: For preschool and younger programs or programs for all ages, parent participation is expected and younger siblings are allowed.)

The Pacific Grove Public Library offers Toddler Tales on Mondays from 11:00–11:30 a.m.

Salinas’s John Steinbeck Library offers Story Time Jamboree for ages 0 to 7 on Thursdays from 4–4:30 p.m.

The Carmel Valley branch offers a fun and interactive weekly preschool storytime program (designed for infants and kids up to age 4) with singing, movement, and engaging stories on Wednesdays at 10:30 a.m.

PLAY TIMES

The Pacific Grove Public Library offers preschool stories on Tuesdays from 11:00–11:30 a.m. Miss Mary and Barnaby Bear read stories and sing songs developmentally tailored for preschoolers, but all ages are welcome.

The Salinas Public Library hosts playgroups for those ages 1 to 4. These groups provide exploratory activities to help develop a child’s skills. Registration is required. Call 831-758-7355 for more information.

The Carmel Park Branch Children’s Library offers craft programs once a month on Fridays. They also host sessions of LEGO Lab and game times.

The Marina branch presents Build and Play! on Tuesdays from 4:00–6:45 p.m. They lay out toys in the kids’ area, from MAGNA-TILES, LEGO bricks, and KEVA planks to larger DUPLO blocks, and you bring your building creativity! Come with your little ones to play together and socialize with other families.

The Carmel Valley branch offers Stay and Play, with colorful toys that encourage motor and social development. For more information, call the branch at 831-647-7760 or email Ashley at griffithsa@co.monterey.ca.us.

The Pacific Grove Public Library hosts open playtime on Wednesdays from 10:30 a.m.–12:00 p.m.

PARENT AND CHILD-FRIENDLY OPTIONS:

As of January 2023, Monterey Public Library has new parent–child corrals available as workstations as well as a quiet space for nursing.

LOCAL RESOURCES:

The Marina branch offers monthly Dads Read events featuring storytimes led by area fathers, as well as clothes and toys swaps.

The Monterey Public Library, Carmel Harrison Public Library, and other local libraries offer California State Park passes to be checked out for three weeks at a time by cardholders. Take your little one to explore a new area or enjoy a walk.

Low-income families residing in Monterey County qualify for one free aquarium pass per season (September through April) via the Shelf-to-Shore program through the MCFL, Monterey, and Pacific Grove libraries. Call to check if passes are available and present your library card for a qualifying adult aged 18+.

DIGITAL RESOURCES:

MCFL has an extensive YouTube Channel that offers Rhymes and Songs videos in English and Spanish for preschoolers. Additional fun options include Little Chef, STEAM Time, Backyard Science, Make It Monday, and more.

Recorded songs, stories, and experiment tutorials are available anytime at Monterey.org’s kid’s page under the library tab.

MCFL offers a database called Tumble Book Library, accessible with an MCFL library card or a free trial: Tumblebooklibrary.com

BOOKS AND READING:

PBS Kids: Educational games and videos from Curious George, Wild Kratts, and other PBS Kids shows! (PBSKids.org)

Footsteps2Brilliance: Free access to a selection of 500 interactive, award-winning digital ebooks, songs, and activities (Footsteps2Brilliance.com)

Story Time from Space: A project of the Global Space Education Foundation, Story Time from Space sends children’s books to the International Space Station so astronauts can read them to you! (StorytimefromSpace.com)

ADDITIONAL MCFL-RECOMMENDED RESOURCES:

1-2-3 Andrés: Interactive music for kids and families that teaches Spanish language and Latin American culture (YouTube or 123Andres.com)

The Singing Walrus: Interactive, catchy songs designed to encourage children to engage with the music and learn new things in a playful way (YouTube)

MATH:

Funbrain: Hundreds of games, books, comics, and videos that develop skills in math, reading, problem-solving, and literacy for prekindergarteners.