Flying With A Baby: Tips to Make it Better Than You Expect

I dreaded the first flights with my baby (five in total over the course of three weeks), but thanks to following these tips, I had a surprisingly great experience! Hope they are helpful.

Crowdsourced from many wise people I've encountered:
-Make sure the baby starts sucking 40 min before landing to protect their ears—set a timer based on when landing is predicted.
-Bring extra clothes for the baby and all adults.
-Wear a baby carrier through the airport and definitely through security.
-Drink extra water whenever you can—flight attendants are happy to help—and pack plenty of snacks for yourself.
-Wear a Boppy as a neck pillow then it will be handy for nursing and for letting baby sleep on.
-Use the MAMAVA App to find nursing spaces. Or review designated nursing spaces on the airport’s map.
-Don't board early; we found it most helpful to board as late as possible after friends had recommended it. Obviously stay close so you don’t cause any trouble making the flight.
-Wear a nursing cover scarf if you like.
-You can get a free pass from the airline ticket counter for someone to accompany you to the boarding gate.
-Flight attendants can heat up bottles for you. No need to ask for a cup of hot water and fumble with it yourself.
-Dressing in layers is very helpful.
-Change diapers as close to when you board as possible: you may be able to skip or at least minimize plane changes.

Quick Revival of Monterey Tea Favorite (originally for Edible Monterey Bay)

Cha-ya Japanese Tea & Things is now Cha-Ya Boutique and Tea House under new proprietor Ariel Wolansky, who also owns The Xocolatl Garden in Carmel. 

Previous owner Mitsuko Gammon closed the shop at the end of 2023 to spend more time with family, after sharing her tea expertise with the area since 2005. Thankfully another tea enthusiast swooped in to keep it alive. 

“Being a tea fan and seeing a place that’s been around for 18 years closing, originally I reached out to help find a way for it to not close,” said Wolansky. The new team soft-reopened in early February.

Wolansky has been studying and appreciating tea for over a decade with many tea teachers from China who have dedicated their whole lives to learning about tea and sharing it. “One of my passions is tea and one is chocolate, and I wanted to do both,” he said. 

Cha-ya devotees will be thrilled to learn that the new owner has maintained all of Gammon’s prior Japanese tea connections and will continue to offer a wide variety of Japanese teas. Other tea options will include Chinese teas such as Puerh and oolong along with Japanese favorites such as matcha, Azuma organic green tea directly from the farm and Den’s Tea specialty green teas. 

Cha-ya’s new owner Ariel Wolansky with former owner Mitsuko Gammon.

Wolansky is also adding a variety of locally produced items, including matcha cookies made by neighbors and beloved Monterey pastry chefs Anne Parker Johnson and Yann Lusseau of Parker-Lusseau. 

Hand-harvested Garden of the Universe herbal teas made by Big Sur biologist, herbalist, forager, medicine maker and beekeeper Katie Rose will be on offer, along with loose-leaf tea blends from ZumZum Tea made by Salinas duo Anthony and Kimberly Chavez—self-described “die-hard tea lovers” who respect Fair Trade practices and sell their teas at local farmers markets.

Besides all the tea options, Cha-Ya Boutique and Tea House now offers 20 types of tea-flavored chocolates, such as award-winning small-batch Genmai Cha (toasted rice and green tea) Jade Chocolate from San Francisco, organic, vegan Goodio Candied Chamomile chocolate stone-ground in Finland, Fossa Chocolate with Oolong tea, Hojicha chocolate, Taiwanese chocolate and other selections from Wolansky’s own brand, Choquiero Chocolate. “They’ll have to come in to see all the options,” he teased.

The shop is adding new teas, tea flavored chocolates and Japanese specialty items.

Other additions include new seating in the shop where people can come in to enjoy tea, as well as the opportunity to have a tea ceremony (please allow 30 minutes for a tea ceremony). The space is also available for private events after-hours. 

There are also plans to host weekly social tea gatherings and monthly chocolate and tea events, similar to the “Chocolate and Tea Gatherings” held at The Xocolatl Garden, so keep an eye on social media for those. 

“Chocolate and Tea Gatherings started as free events for people to enjoy, gather around and share. Really to bring the community together,” he adds.

Wolansky will also be working with tea connoisseurs to offer exclusive specialty items including Soga Shohaku art, tansus (Traditional portable storage chests from Japan), scrolls, ceramic and clay teapots alongside silk fans and Mihoko origami cranes. Other unique offerings include tea pets, Yixing, Gaiwan and Japanese tea pots, Gongfu tea kits with various tray options and lots of tea accessories. Cha-Ya also now carries body care products including tea-based creams and Japanese-style bath bombs.

A recent Instagram post shares the vibe: “Lost in the quiet charm of Cha-Ya, where teas are stories, art whispers, and time takes its time. Embracing the slow sips and simplicity of the moment. From cozy ceremonies to a cup for the road, join us in finding joy in the little things.” Head over to experience it yourself. 

Cha-Ya Boutique and Tea House • 118 Webster Street, Monterey • Open F-Sa 11 am-6 pm and Su-Th 11am-4 pm • @ChaYaMonterey

My Favorite Survival Tips for a New Baby’s Arrival

Notes to my friends and family from my early postpartum self! My favorite survival and sanity-saving methods for those wild early days.

-Everything on the KellyMom website—my Lactation Consultant told me it was all the same advice she gives.

-Have lots of extra burp cloths, baby towels, regular towels, extra t-shirts nearby because they run out faster than you’d think at the beginning.

-Wear lightweight button-down shirts to help with feedings and your temperature changes.

-Listening to the First Forty Days audiobook (by Heng Ou) was helpful to encourage me to take it slow.

-MamasteFit has a free early postpartum course with some suggested breathing and stretching.

-Massage from the outside in as you’re nursing sometimes: a veteran women’s health nurse said it’s the most common place to have issues.

-Try free doula text support from JustBirthSpace on Facebook messenger.

-Have your partner prep multiple water glasses in the bathroom and near the couch/bed so that it's nearby anytime the urge strikes plus will hopefully remind you to drink.

-Request a referral and set up a future appointment with a pelvic floor PT—at least in my area, it takes a while to get in—and they can assist with an exam, breathing and mobility exercises, scar tissue mobilization and a diastasis recti check if you are uncomfortable or unsure about what to do on your own like I was. They may even offer virtual consultations!

-Use the side-lying feeding position to get some "pseudo-rest".

-Leave the house dirty, it’ll be okay. It's just a season and nothing is normal right now.

-Try for the 5-5-5 rule: 5 days in bed, 5 days on the bed and 5 days around the bed. My doula recommended no more than 15 minute walks in the first month and being horizontal as much as possible the first two weeks.

-Let the light in during baby’s daytime naps for a bit to help with day-night confusion.

-Keep cashews, almonds, your nut of choice or protein bars very nearby to prevent urgent hanger.

-Try infant massage for baby gas.

-Hang up anything wet to air dry—get your partner to do it if you’re too tired.

And know that it will definitely get easier!