California's Quirky Fairs & Festivals (originally for Monterey Bay Parent Magazine)

WHALEFEST MONTEREY

April 13-14, 2024 | Whalefest.org

World-renowned marine experts and a variety of local groups share whale facts, maps and opportunities to support our biggest neighbors. Enjoy music from 12 different artists/groups including the very appropriately named “Jonah and the Whalewatchers” and Nicholas Fettis and his “Orca”stra, visit a marine research vessel and more at this outdoor event. Admission is free.

JACKALOPE INDIE ARTS FAIR

Pasadena | April 27-28, 2024

Burbank | June 8-9 and December 7-8, 2024 | JackalopeArtFair.com

Explore items from more than 200 local artisans across a variety of disciplines while enjoying live music at this outdoor fair. Kids may particularly enjoy making customizable slime, getting glitter tattoos and unicorn braids, coloring a free postcard or getting a custom poem written about them. In Burbank, peruse goods from more than 170 local artisans including specially featured young artisans showing off their handmade items. Admission to this event is free at both locations.

SANTA CRUZ MOUNTAIN MUSHROOM FESTIVAL

Felton | May 4-5, 2024 | CaliforniaMushroomFestival.com

“Building community through fungi”: Experience this new festival focused on our local mushroom bounty. Enjoy demos, DIY booths, nature walks, live music and a kids zone.

KINETIC GRAND CHAMPIONSHIP

Humboldt County | May 25-27, 2024 | KineticGrandChampionship.com

For three days, pilots and crews guide kinetic sculptures in a 40-mile race across roads, sand, mud and water. These “all-terrain human-powered art vehicles” include fun details such as faces, fire cannons and other unusual features. This event has been held for more than 50 years: now it’s your turn to experience it.

CALIFORNIA EXTREME

Santa Clara | July 27-28, 2024 | CAExtreme.org

“The classic arcade game show”: Lean into your nostalgia and play hundreds of old-school games, all day with no coins needed. Options include pinball machines, arcade games, video games and many that you just can’t find much any more. Introduce the kids to your hard-to-find favorites!

THE WORLD DOG SURFING CHAMPIONSHIPS

Pacifica | August 3, 2024 | SurfDogChampionships.com

“Hanging ten with man’s best friend”: Human and dog surfers gather to seek the best waves at Linda Mar Beach. You’re guaranteed to catch lots of fun sights. Grab some dog surfing merchandise while you’re there. The event helps raise money for good causes. Admission is free.

THE LITTLE CAR SHOW

Pacific Grove | August 14, 2024

Featuring over 100 cars from micro to mini to arcane vehicles, you’ll enjoy browsing and cheering for these cute, fun cars as much as your kids will. Browse on Lighthouse Avenue or watch them cruise down Ocean View Boulevard to Asilomar State Beach. Free admission.

NIGHTS OF THE JACK

Calabasas | September 29-October 31, 2024 | NightsoftheJack.com

“The premiere immersive Halloween experience”: Lights everywhere, pumpkins made into huge animals such as gorillas and elephants, Jack-o-Lantern trees and more. Walk their spooky trail with some hot cider.

DEATH VALLEY ‘49ERS ENCAMPMENT

Death Valley National Park | DeathValley49ers.org

Join the Death Valley ‘49ers for gold rush-style activities, from gold panning and gem mining, doll-making, and blacksmithing demonstrations. 2024 marks the 75th anniversary of this event.

INDIO INTERNATIONAL TAMALE FESTIVAL

December 7-8, 2024 | IndioTamaleFestival.com

Celebrated since the 1990s, venture to Indio in early December to enjoy thousands of tamales, carnival rides, mariachi, and plenty of music appealing to all ages. Which flavor will be your favorite? Free admission.

Flying With A Baby: Tips to Make it Better Than You Expect

I dreaded the first flights with my baby (five in total over the course of three weeks), but thanks to following these tips, I had a surprisingly great experience! Hope they are helpful.

Crowdsourced from many wise people I've encountered:

-Make sure the baby starts sucking 40 min before landing to protect their ears—set a timer based on when landing is predicted.

-Bring extra clothes for the baby and all adults.

-Wear a baby carrier through the airport and definitely through security.

-Drink extra water whenever you can—flight attendants are happy to help—and pack plenty of snacks for yourself.

-Wear a Boppy as a neck pillow then it will be handy for nursing and for letting baby sleep on.

-Use the MAMAVA App to find nursing spaces. Or review designated nursing spaces on the airport’s map.

-Don't board early; we found it most helpful to board as late as possible after friends had recommended it. Obviously stay close so you don’t cause any trouble making the flight.

-Wear a nursing cover scarf if you like.

-You can get a free pass from the airline ticket counter for someone to accompany you to the boarding gate.

-Flight attendants can heat up bottles for you. No need to ask for a cup of hot water and fumble with it yourself.

-Dressing in layers is very helpful.

-Change diapers as close to when you board as possible: you may be able to skip or at least minimize plane changes.

Quick Revival of Monterey Tea Favorite (originally for Edible Monterey Bay)

Cha-ya Japanese Tea & Things is now Cha-Ya Boutique and Tea House under new proprietor Ariel Wolansky, who also owns The Xocolatl Garden in Carmel. 

Previous owner Mitsuko Gammon closed the shop at the end of 2023 to spend more time with family, after sharing her tea expertise with the area since 2005. Thankfully another tea enthusiast swooped in to keep it alive. 

“Being a tea fan and seeing a place that’s been around for 18 years closing, originally I reached out to help find a way for it to not close,” said Wolansky. The new team soft-reopened in early February.

Wolansky has been studying and appreciating tea for over a decade with many tea teachers from China who have dedicated their whole lives to learning about tea and sharing it. “One of my passions is tea and one is chocolate, and I wanted to do both,” he said. 

Cha-ya devotees will be thrilled to learn that the new owner has maintained all of Gammon’s prior Japanese tea connections and will continue to offer a wide variety of Japanese teas. Other tea options will include Chinese teas such as Puerh and oolong along with Japanese favorites such as matcha, Azuma organic green tea directly from the farm and Den’s Tea specialty green teas. 

Cha-ya’s new owner Ariel Wolansky with former owner Mitsuko Gammon.

Wolansky is also adding a variety of locally produced items, including matcha cookies made by neighbors and beloved Monterey pastry chefs Anne Parker Johnson and Yann Lusseau of Parker-Lusseau. 

Hand-harvested Garden of the Universe herbal teas made by Big Sur biologist, herbalist, forager, medicine maker and beekeeper Katie Rose will be on offer, along with loose-leaf tea blends from ZumZum Tea made by Salinas duo Anthony and Kimberly Chavez—self-described “die-hard tea lovers” who respect Fair Trade practices and sell their teas at local farmers markets.

Besides all the tea options, Cha-Ya Boutique and Tea House now offers 20 types of tea-flavored chocolates, such as award-winning small-batch Genmai Cha (toasted rice and green tea) Jade Chocolate from San Francisco, organic, vegan Goodio Candied Chamomile chocolate stone-ground in Finland, Fossa Chocolate with Oolong tea, Hojicha chocolate, Taiwanese chocolate and other selections from Wolansky’s own brand, Choquiero Chocolate. “They’ll have to come in to see all the options,” he teased.

The shop is adding new teas, tea flavored chocolates and Japanese specialty items.

Other additions include new seating in the shop where people can come in to enjoy tea, as well as the opportunity to have a tea ceremony (please allow 30 minutes for a tea ceremony). The space is also available for private events after-hours. 

There are also plans to host weekly social tea gatherings and monthly chocolate and tea events, similar to the “Chocolate and Tea Gatherings” held at The Xocolatl Garden, so keep an eye on social media for those. 

“Chocolate and Tea Gatherings started as free events for people to enjoy, gather around and share. Really to bring the community together,” he adds.

Wolansky will also be working with tea connoisseurs to offer exclusive specialty items including Soga Shohaku art, tansus (Traditional portable storage chests from Japan), scrolls, ceramic and clay teapots alongside silk fans and Mihoko origami cranes. Other unique offerings include tea pets, Yixing, Gaiwan and Japanese tea pots, Gongfu tea kits with various tray options and lots of tea accessories. Cha-Ya also now carries body care products including tea-based creams and Japanese-style bath bombs.

A recent Instagram post shares the vibe: “Lost in the quiet charm of Cha-Ya, where teas are stories, art whispers, and time takes its time. Embracing the slow sips and simplicity of the moment. From cozy ceremonies to a cup for the road, join us in finding joy in the little things.” Head over to experience it yourself. 

Cha-Ya Boutique and Tea House • 118 Webster Street, Monterey • Open F-Sa 11 am-6 pm and Su-Th 11am-4 pm • @ChaYaMonterey

Q&A With Monterey-Area Camp Directors (originally for Monterey Bay Parent Magazine)

Gain some inside info from our question and answer session with three experienced local camp directors.

Did you attend camp as a child? If so, what was your favorite part?

AA I attended an overnight camp a couple of times. My favorite part was the same that I hear from our campers: the camp community!

KC Yes! Summer camp was always a highlight! I have fond memories of building Rube Goldberg machines and spending most of my summer days playing sports from sunrise to sunset. Camp allowed me to try new things, gain confidence, and build friendships.

MT I attended our Playground Program during the summer and enjoyed all the sports and outdoor games.

What is the role of a camp director in a nutshell?

AA Facilitate everything that goes into creating a memorable and meaningful camper experience and provide opportunities for girls to try new things, grow within themselves, and, of course, have fun.

KC Create a vibrant and inclusive camp culture, uphold safety standards, and provide support to staff members. They’re also involved in communication with parents, community outreach, and budget management. Ultimately, they play a crucial role in shaping the camp’s mission, fostering a supportive environment, and facilitating memorable experiences for all.

What should parents/guardians think about most when choosing a camp?

AA Camp philosophy and values, inclusion and diversity practices, safety measures, programming, communication protocol, facilities, registration flexibility, and lastly, camper independence and personal growth.

KC Camp values, safety, diverse and inclusive programming, as well as a friendly and welcoming environment.

Pros and cons of trying new camps versus sticking with old favorites?

AA New camps offer campers the opportunity to meet new friends and try new activities. Familiar camps let campers build on existing friendships and relive favorite traditions.

KC New camps provide an opportunity for fresh experiences, diverse activities, and the chance to meet new friends. New camps encourage campers to step out of their comfort zones, foster personal growth, and expose them to a broader range of interests. Potential downsides include the uncertainty of the camp experience, adjustment challenges, and the risk of not meeting expectations.

MT New camps mean new experiences that allow a child to discover different interests but could cause some anxiety. Old favorites provide consistency, comfort, and confidence.

What recommendations would you make for a first-time camper? For others?

AA Support your child no matter what they are feeling—nervous, excited, or both—by asking questions and modeling curiosity. Ask: “What sounds like an activity you will enjoy?” “What is something you are wondering about?” “I wonder what you will get to try?”

KC Have an open and positive conversation with the child about what to expect. Discuss the fun activities, new friends, and the supportive staff to alleviate any concerns.

MT Definitely prepare your child beforehand and be supportive. Open communication with the staff is key.

For a shyer child

AA It’s important to understand that every child has different social needs, and these needs can change over time. In the all-girls community of Summer at Santa Catalina, we intentionally design our camp days to encourage connection across interests and age groups.

KC Encourage participation in smaller group activities initially to help build comfort and connections.

MT Prepare your child and be supportive as well as communicative to the staff. Shyer children need to be eased into activities. Finding a friend who they can connect with helps.

For a more active kid

AA Look for a camp with adventurous activities and the ability to try something new. Our campers love picking their own classes—taking a marine biology class, ceramics, sports, and dance, all in one day!

KC Choose camps that offer a variety of high-energy and physically engaging activities to keep the child stimulated and excited throughout the camp day!

MT Make sure that the program fits offering more things outdoors and a variety of activities with smooth transitions.

For an artsy little one

AA Summer at Santa Catalina offers a wide variety of visual and performing arts activities starting at age 7, and our musical theater program is open to campers ages 8–14.

KC Ensure the camp environment is supportive of self-expression, allowing the child to embrace and showcase their creative side.

MT There should be a variety of activities that allow the child to express themselves and be creative while also getting them to come out of their comfort zone and explore something new.

For an older child

AA Look for camps that offer leadership opportunities. Our goal is for campers to identify their own leadership strengths and styles while building inner resources to grow from conflict and failure.

KC Consider camps with specialized programs that align with their specific interests, whether leadership, adventure, or academic pursuits. Encourage your child to actively engage with peers through games, team-building, and shared experiences.

MT Definitely look for ways that your child can gain leadership skills while still having fun.

My Favorite Survival Tips for a New Baby’s Arrival

Notes to my friends and my future early postpartum self!

-Everything on the KellyMom website—my Lactation Consultant told me it was all the same advice she gives.

-Have lots of extra burp cloths, baby towels, regular towels, extra t-shirts nearby because they run out faster than you’d think at the beginning.

-Wear lightweight button-down shirts to help with feedings and your temperature changes.

-Listening to the First Forty Days audiobook (by Heng Ou) was helpful to encourage me to take it slow.

-MamasteFit has a free early postpartum course with some suggested breathing and stretching.

-Massage from the outside in as you’re nursing sometimes: a veteran women’s health nurse said it’s the most common place to have issues.

-Try free doula text support from JustBirthSpace on Facebook messenger.

-Have your partner prep multiple water glasses in the bathroom and near the couch/bed so that it's nearby anytime the urge strikes plus will hopefully remind you to drink.

-Request a referral and set up a future appointment with a pelvic floor PT—at least in my area, it takes a while to get in—and they can assist with an exam, breathing and mobility exercises, scar tissue mobilization and a diastasis recti check if you are uncomfortable or unsure about what to do on your own like I was. They may even offer virtual consultations!

-Use the side-lying feeding position to get some "pseudo-rest".

-Leave the house dirty, it’ll be okay. It's just a season and nothing is normal right now.

-Try for the 5-5-5 rule: 5 days in bed, 5 days on the bed and 5 days around the bed. My doula recommended no more than 15 minute walks in the first month and being horizontal as much as possible the first two weeks.

-Let the light in during baby’s daytime naps for a bit to help with day-night confusion.

-Keep cashews, almonds, your nut of choice or protein bars very nearby to prevent urgent hanger.

-Try infant massage for baby gas.

-Hang up anything wet to air dry—get your partner to do it if you’re too tired.

And know that it will definitely get easier!

Family Photos Around Monterey, CA

(So I decided to write this article within an hour of taking family photos and didn’t even realize until the next day. Is this “mom brain”? Probably.)

If photos bring you joy, take advantage of your kids’ cuteness and the many local photographers to preserve memories in our beautiful home. It’s a truly spectacular area among the loveliest in the country. Please be sure to use a “Leave No Trace” mindset to keep it pristine for everyone.

“I feel beyond grateful to photograph families around the Monterey Peninsula. It is truly one-of-a-kind area—there is so much beauty and variety here. Garrapata Beach, Sobrennes Trail and Fort Ord Dunes are my favorites,” said experienced photographer Alexandra Podobnik of Alexandra Megan Photography.

 

Here are some ideas of worthwhile locations, no matter what backdrop you crave:

Around Town

-Your home or yard: Feel happiest right where you are? Simplify logistics and take advantage of your own space and things. Perhaps include favorite family items. Ideally spruce up a bit first—perhaps schedule for right after spring cleaning.

-Main Street, Salinas*: Cool storefronts and signage.

-Colton Hall Lawn, Monterey: Spacious grassy lawn in the middle of historic downtown.

-Portrait studio: Capture classic personality or heirloom-style portraits and newborns in a home studio with a clean backdrop such as offered locally by Love in Focus (https://loveinfocusphotos.com/).

-The neighborhood around Alta Bakery, Monterey*: Great architecture and flowers.

-Downtown Carmel*: Enjoy the storybook vibes.

-Behind the Custom House, Monterey*: Gorgeous flowers, Adobe character.

-(For military only) Hotel Del Monte, Monterey*: Steeped in history with great steps, fountains, rooftop and a rose garden.

-Cannery Row, Monterey*: It’s classic for a reason. Go early to try to miss crowds.

 

Greenery

-Jack’s Peak Park, Monterey*: Great views high above the peninsula. Prepare for a hike.

-Point Lobos State Natural Reserve, Carmel*: Enjoy this favorite area park’s wide variety of trails but avoid peak time by going on weekdays or near closing. Definitely comfortable shoes.

-Nisene Marks, Aptos*: Amazing for redwoods.

-Garland Ranch Regional Park, Carmel Valley*: There are plenty of trails, trees, and tall grass plus the Carmel hills in the background. Be careful to avoid poison oak.

-Check with local flower and veggie farms* in Salinas, Carmel and more based on your favorites.

 

Coastline

-Lover’s Point and the rec trail, Pacific Grove*: There are so many sweet spots along the trail. Consider avoiding peak commute/exercise times.

-Asilomar Beach, Pacific Grove*: It’s a classic for a reason.

-Ribera Beach, Carmel*: Striking rocks and trails.

-Garrapata State Park, Carmel*: Go especially when the winter/early spring lilies are out but be prepared for mud. We like to wear rain boots.

-Bixby Bridge pull-off, Carmel*: Bring along some extra patience for managing the parking situation here. (Be sure to check if the road is open before you set out as the Big Sur area can be precarious.)

-Fort Ord Dunes Park, Seaside*: Majestic sand dunes and good parking near the ocean.

*Please be mindful that permits are required for these locations.

 

Some tips to make the most of family photos:

-Consider nap times and schedules to aim for the smiliest times.

-Pack water, snacks, bottles and/or common kid requests.

-Consider diapers and/or potty breaks in your plan.

-Pre-apply sunscreen, as needed, taking care not to get on clothing.

-Aim for golden hour (one hour after sunrise or before sunset) in the morning or evening if you can.

-Take some toys along to encourage smiling.

-Pack several extra outfits, especially for littler ones.

-Perhaps pick a photographer who has children so you know that they’ll understand much of what you’re working with. Our favorite photographer helped us make many fart noises to make the baby smile with amazing results.

Your (Toddler) Sleep Questions are Answered! (originally for Monterey Bay Parent Magazine)

Lexi Teska

Graduated from The Cradle Coach Academy and My Sweet Sleep Academy

Newborn Care Specialist, The Cradle Coach Academy

Member of the Association of Professional Sleep Consultants 

Please introduce yourself. How did you get into sleep consulting?

I’m Lexi Teska of Lullaby Lexi Sleep (baby and toddler sleep consultant, ages 0–5). I trained with The Cradle Coach Academy as a newborn care specialist and sleep consultant and am a certified Sweet Sleep Academy consultant and Association of Professional Sleep Consultants member. I got into this partially because I had three kids under three and had hired a pediatric sleep consultant as a sleep-deprived military spouse with a deployed husband.

What are some of the greatest misconceptions you notice? What is confusing parents and making it harder to encourage healthy sleep?

Often parents think being a sleep consultant means teaching “cry it out”—which couldn’t be further from the truth. There are so many gentle and parent-responsive ways to set your child up with healthy sleep foundations.

A lot of the confusion out there stems from the abundance of online information thrown at parents. Most of the information is general and doesn’t take into consideration your child’s unique temperament. Children are all so different. It’s important to find what works best for each one.

Is there anything special to keep in mind while traveling or hosting? How about encountering different seasons?

While traveling, try to replicate your child’s regular sleep environment and routine. For example, if at home they sleep in a crib with their sleep sack, bring a travel crib and sleep sack on your trip. If you have a toddler who sleeps with their favorite stuffed animal, be sure to bring it along.

For changing seasons/temperatures, it’s important to consider what kind of pajamas your child should have. In colder climates, consider some thicker fleece pajamas, but in warmer climates, you might opt for a lighter onesie or bamboo pajamas.

If you use a sleep sack for your child, you can also look up the thermal overall grade (TOG) rating. The higher the TOG rating, the warmer the fabric: 0.5 TOG sleep sacks may be suitable for warm climates, but you may want one with a TOG rating of 2.0 or higher for a cold climate.

What should you do if your childcare facility does not provide an optimal sleep environment or schedule for your child (for example, a daycare with multiple kids in one room or a schedule that doesn’t align with their natural rhythms)?

I always tell parents to try not to stress about things that aren’t in their control. Children are so adaptable. Make the best of the situation and focus on what you can when your child is at home. An early bedtime—even as early as 6 p.m.—can work wonders on days where naps aren’t great.

Toddlers and preschoolers often deal with teething or getting sick. What are some ways to help adjust sleep practices and encourage them to bounce back to a great sleep routine after the teeth are in, for example?

Give extra comfort when needed, but try to stay consistent in the routine. It’s okay if things look different for a day or two, but always try to get right back to the normal routine to prevent new habits from forming.

How do you help a toddler sleep on the go (such as in a car seat, carrier, or stroller) or in a noisy or well-lit environment if they typically fall asleep in a quiet, dark environment?

All toddlers are different. Some do really well napping on the go, but so many struggle with this. It can help to have them in the car seat or stroller before their scheduled nap time so they aren’t already overtired before you head out. There are also great portable sound machines.

How late is too late for a toddler or preschooler to go to sleep?

This depends on what time they wake up and their overall schedule for the day. The ideal range for bedtime in line with natural circadian rhythms is 7–8 p.m.

How do you get preschoolers to not draw out bedtime (for example, to stop asking for lots of things before sleeping)?

Toddlers are natural boundary pushers, which is a healthy and normal part of development. I love to use a “bedtime pass.” It helps children get that sense of control that they crave. Essentially, they get a special ticket each night at bedtime, and they then can choose if and when to turn in that ticket for a chance to get out of bed for a specific reason.

Once the ticket has been used, it’s important for parents to practice holding the boundary and explain, “You have already used your bedtime pass tonight. You will get a new bedtime pass tomorrow night.”

Talk to me about “sleep training.” We know some babies are too young for sleep training. Is there a too-old-for-sleep-training age and/or do the methods change after a certain age?

The schedules and routines may change based on the child’s age, but the actual sleep training method that I use is the same despite age. I always use a gentle approach where the parent stays in the room with their child until the child is asleep.

There is no age limit to learning healthy sleep hygiene. I’m certified through age 5, but other sleep consultants work with older children.

When should parents/caregivers reach out for help?

Before you become overwhelmed—lack of sleep takes a toll on the whole family. I offer free 20-minute consultations for anyone who wants to discuss options for their specific situation.

For additional information: LullabyLexiSleep.com